A Story I Never Thought I’d Tell

a story I never thought I'd tell
A couple of months ago, I shared with you for the first time a little bit about my story and what has gone on behind the scenes the past ten years. In all honesty, during the worst times when my marriage was so broken, I was embarrassed, and I didn’t want anyone to know what was going on behind the four walls of my home. During a very short period, my barely three-year-old daughter was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, my father was diagnosed with incurable brain cancer, my marriage fell apart, my father passed away, my husband was laid off from his job in pharmaceuticals due to a merger, we had spec homes that didn’t sell for extended periods of time, and I could go on and on. It felt like every time I got back on my feet another wave crashed over me, and I was left staggering to stand again. We were bombarded with so much so fast from many different areas of our lives. I felt hopeless, exhausted, unloved, lonely, and broken beyond what I could comprehend.

At the same time, I’m a fighter, and I don’t give up easily. I was determined to do everything in my power to fight for my marriage. If my marriage didn’t work out, I wanted to be able to look my kids in the face and know I had done everything humanly possible. What I am sharing with you today, I never thought would happen. Even if God somehow saved our marriage I couldn’t imagine ever being in a place where my husband and I shared our story together or reached out to encourage other couples because that would be a healing that was beyond my comprehension. And that is precisely where we are. God is using our story to help others. God is using our story of redemption and healing to encourage others to fight FOR their marriage. It took years before our marriage healed and it was the hardest work I’ve ever done. However, I wouldn’t trade what I have learned or the person I am today, there are unexpected gifts in brokenness.

Here is our story, a story that I never wanted to tell. Then, something changed inside of me, and I began to beg God not to waste my pain. If somehow, in his sovereignty, if he could make me whole again and heal my broken heart then I knew I wouldn’t be able to keep quiet. He did exactly that. I am healed, whole, and my marriage has been restored and redeemed by the healing hand of God. Here is our story of redemption that we filmed for our church, Redemption Point Church.

The Trenums from Redemption Point on Vimeo.

Please watch and share not because it’s my story, but because it’s God’s story of redemption and what he did for my family he can do for any family. There are so many couples who are broken, hurting, and hopeless. I pray that our message gives those couples strength to continue to fight despite what it looks like today. The fight for your marriage is worth it!

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  1. Not sure if you remember me but I met with you about 6 years about helping on your blog. We met at Logan’s in Cleveland around Christmas time. I knew there was a reason I was “drawn” to you besides couponing.. Thanks for sharing your story. This will help so many couples. My husband and I went through a very difficult patch and everyone me thought we would divorce. However, neither one of us wanted a divorce and we had two young daughters. Job loss, on the brink of bankruptcy, infidelity (and yes this one still hurts me greatly) we worked through all of this. It was NOT easy and unfortunately the hurt still flares up occasionally. However, my husband is very understanding and supportive of me during these times and I do talk to him about it during low times. We got back into church and got involved with other young couples and by sharing our story privately with some of the couples was able to encourage and help save a marriage. One in particular has gone above and beyond anything I could imagine. Even though we don’t see them very often, they have gone into missions and have done wonderful things with their lives they are a couple who is known worldwide now and still paying it forward.
    After all those problems and healing, more problems cropped up — a pregnant 16 year old, my job loss and poor health continued years later. My grandson is turning 18 soon and is the light of my life. I cannot imagine not having him and he has brought so much joy to us. He will graduate next year from a prestigious private school with honors and with my job loss, got into couponing and then met you Kasey. Our story continues…. And we are ready to still share with couples in similar situations. Thank you for sharing your story, I know how painful and hard it can be.

    1. I do remember you!! You certainly have a testimony as well. God is so faithful! Thank you for sharing your story as well. Blessings to you!

  2. This is awesome. Isn’t it funny how when you talk to God about your spouse he talks back to you about you?

  3. Thank you both so much for being willing to share the story of your brokenness, pain and restoration in order to help others. Your story will surely encourage many others who are going through some very difficult situations. The story of God’s power to restore your marriage will be a light of hope to some who are in a very dark place.

  4. Great Blog ! thanks for sharing with us your story is really well and people are easily relate to story. your story encourage others. It is very difficult to handle this situation but at the end of the day all is well.

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